kone uden tørklæde

[Muhyi al din]

Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rarhim,

Er det tilladt at lade sig skille fra sin kone, fordi hun efter gentagne forsøg over en lang periode (i et par år), nægter at bære tørklæde?

[Idris]

http://www.dar-alifta.org/ViewFatwa.asp ... 2&LangID=2

Dette er en længere fatwa fra Egyptens Fatwa Hus. Spørgeren nævner en muslimsk kone, der har gjort en masse forkerte ting - hun går ikke med tørklæde, og hun beder ikke, hun viderebringer sin mands hemmeligheder, og så videre.

Egyptens Fatwa Hus svarer:

If the situation is as mentioned in the question, we advise the petitioner to endeavor to fix his wife—the mother of his children—before deciding on separation, while proffering one’s excuse to Allah, performing the right of sincere advice and her right over him. [This is] so he not spoil the opportunity should she be receptive to mending her ways. Allah Most High said, Order your wife to pray and be patient with her, 12 so he must be kind when giving advice, and tenderly direct her, since “Tenderness enters nothing without decorating it, and is never removed without disfiguring it,” 13 and since he must tend to the members of his household and is held accountable in how he tends them. This responsibility requires manliness, bearing hardships, patience, and toil—particularly in light of human frailty and the emotional nature of women. The Prophet said, “Women were created from one of Adam’s ribs; they cannot be changed [from their primordial nature]. If you enjoy them it will happen in spite of their primordial bent. If you set out to mend them, you will break them. Breaking them means divorce.” 14

He must seek aid for her through supplicating Allah Most High, by praying the Prayer of Need [salat al-hajah], frequent use of litanies, and by seeking forgiveness. Allah Most High says, “Seek aid through patience and prayer” 15, and because the Prophet would pray whenever something troubled him. 16. He should then seek help from whomever his wife accepts advice.

If, after expending all efforts and exhausting all possibilities and seeking pardon from Allah Most High, he sees that she has responded positively and improved, he should thank Allah Most High for providing guidance and success, and he must make an expiation for his oath to never return to his house by feeding or clothing ten people who are poor. Otherwise, if cohabitation is impossible, he should seek guidance from Allah, divorce her – amicably and give her all her legal rights. Allah Most High says But if they separate, Allah will compensate each out of His abundance. Allah is ever All-Embracing, All-Knowing. 17

And Allah Most High knows best.

Men i dette specifikke spørgsmål er der som sagt tale om mange andre ting end lige præcis tørklædet. Så hvis du føler at det derfor ikke besvarer dit spørgsmål godt nok, så vil jeg inshaAllah indsende et nyt her en af dagene.

Salam,
Idris.

[Muhyi al din]

As-salamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullah,

Interessant at læse ovenstående og se, at der skal rigtig meget til, før man evt. skal tænke på skillsmisse.

Men jeg havde noget helt specifikt i tankerne.

Hvis kvinden var en god kvinde, moder og religiøs, men bar ikke tørklæde, er det så tilladt at lade sig skille af den grund.


Håber på din forståelse og tålmodighed.

[Idris]

Wa Alaykom Salam!

Det tænkte jeg nok. Jeg ser på det

[Idris]

Vi har pt. en del spørgsmål, der venter på svar. Vi indsender det inshaAllah, når vi har modtaget svar på de andre spørgsmål.

Håber på tålmodighed.

[Idris]

Spørgsmålet er sendt til Madrasa In'amiyya's fatwa hus.
Det vil inshallah også blive sendt til Egyptens Fatwas Hus.

[Idris]

Sendt til Egyptens Fatwa Hus.

[Idris]

Svar fra Egyptens Fatwa Hus:

- Keep your wife. - Be patient towards her. - Give her gentle advice. - Allah will reward you in abundance.

- Behold din kone.
- Vær tålmodig med hende.
- Rådgiv hende blidt.
- Allah vil belønne dig stort.

[Idris]

Fatwa fra Madrasa In'amiyya's Fatwa Hus:

At the outset, one should understand that it is better to make the home than break the home. The matter becomes further complicated if there are children involved in the marriage. If the wife does not wear Hijaab, then the husband should diplomatically encourage his wife to wear the Hijaab. The husband should employ different methods in making her to wear the Hijaab. Frustration, anger, divorce and intolerance will be the ideal recipe in rejecting this woman and taking her further away from Deen. This is exactly what Shaytaan aspires for. If the husband was so concerned of Hijaab, why didn’t he consider this aspect at the time when he proposed to marry her?



If the wife is encouraged with wisdom and diplomacy, she will be encouraged to wear the Hijaab one day. By forcing the issue upon her will make her negative thus causing untold harm and misery to all concerned.

Som udgangspunkt bør man forstå, at det er bedre at "make the home" (skabe et hjem) end at "break the home" (ødelægge et hjem). Spørgsmålet bliver mere kompliceret hvis der er børn involverede i ægteskabet. Hvis konen ikke bærer Hijab, så bør hendes mand opfordre hende til dette diplomatisk. Manden bør tage forskellige metoder i brug for at få hende til at tage det på. Frustration, vrede, skilsmisse og intolerance vil være den ideele opskrift til at afvise denne kvinde og tage hende længere væk fra religionen. Dette er præcis hvad Shaytan forsøger at opnå. Hvis manden er så optaget af Hijab, hvorfor tog han så ikke dette aspekt i betragtning da han friede til hende?

Hvis konen bliver opfordret med visdom og diplomati, så vil hun blive opfordret til at tage Hijab på en dag. At tvinge hende til dette vil gøre hende negativ, og dermed skabe unødvendig harme og tristhed for alle involverede.

[Muhyi al din]

Masha'Allah - nogle interessante svar.

that it is better to make the home than break the home. b]

Jeg vil oversætte ovenstående med "at det er bedre at skabe et hjem end at ødelægge et hjem"

[Idris]

Det lød så godt, at jeg ikke gad at oversætte det. Men tilføjer det i parantes - Allah Yebarek Fik!